WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES: EXPANDED NEW EDITION - A Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice

I first read "Why Men Love Bitches" before reading this, on the suggestion from a friend who swore by it (she followed it throughout the dating process with her now-husband, who, coincidentally, is a gorgeous man). On such a great recommendation, I had to at least read it and check it out. I won't go into great lengths about it, since this is a review of the second book, but it is an incredible read that will seriously change any nice girl's life!! Having loved the first book so much, and being that I do hope to get married someday soon, I went ahead and ordered the second book, this one. It was at least as good as Argov's first book, if not even better. First off, I need to address the basic idea behind this book (as well as her first), because I think there are probably a lot of women out there who will be put off by the title and dismiss it just for that. These books are not really about being what people typically think of for the term she uses - it is not about being mean, rude, spiteful, bitter, or any of those things. What it really is about is just loving yourself, maintaining your dignity and pride, living and loving your life, and how doing all of that will earn the respect of any man (as the author says and I do agree with, no man is going to marry a woman he does not respect). The book is brilliant because most women (myself included, in the past) believe that once they meet a man they are into, they need to put their lives on hold and make him their number one priority to keep him around. Ms. Argov advises the exact opposite, to keep living your life in a way that makes you happy, and that men will actually respond to that. That is basically what this book (as well as her first) is about - putting yourself first. Women are also made to believe that mindblowing sex (and the sooner, the better) is also important to "snagging" a man. Again, completely wrong, and this book instead stresses the importance of appealing to his sexual imagination, which basically means him being sexually attracted to you, but also not getting everything off the bat and instead "giving" yourself sexually in increments, so that you appeal to his imagination and he gets to enjoy the chase. I have to say though, even though the principles behind her advice are all great, I will not lie - some of the things you have to do, they're hard!! It's hard to not obsess when the man you like doesn't call for a few days (and he most likely will test you this way, because that's what they do - they test you to see how you'll react). It's hard not to ask why you haven't heard from him, where he was last night, is he seeing anyone else, etc. etc. It's also hard to not sleep with a man too soon that you are really attracted to (especially when he is trying to get you to). But if you can force yourself to stay disciplined, it WILL work. Now I am going to provide a personal testimonial. Not only do I know someone who has used Ms. Argov's advice to now be married to the man of her dreams, but I am currently dating someone that I have been using the exact principles advised in Argov's two books. I have only been out with this man six times now - still kind of early to know how it will end, so I can't tell you that, but I can tell you how well it's gone so far. Last night (my most recent date with this man) I went out with him and do you know what happened? I get to his place (it was my turn to go to him, I do NOT just go to him every time like I might have before discovering these books), and he had prepared a candlelight dinner for me. Prior to my arrival, he called to find out what kind of food I like/ don't like, he wouldn't let me help prepare it or clean up afterward. Sixth date, mind you - I know women who are married who have never had their husband prepare them any kind of dinner, let alone a romantic one. He also told me (before I left) how unbelievably attracted to me he was (not the first time either - I as well as others who have read this book know that part of that is because of me being somewhat "unattainable"), how he always has a good time with me, and how interesting he thinks I am - he said most women, he likes the kissing and all of that but after that he usually doesn't want them around, but that with me, he actually likes my company. My response? I just smiled, and said "Thanks. You know I always have fun spending time with you too" (others who have read these books know why "fun" is such an important word). I mean, the guy is practically gushing all over me - and not while trying to grope or score with me while saying all this (very critical fact). It's important to note that this man is sexy, successful, and could probably have just about any woman he wants. And I truly believe it is because I have been following the basic principles Argov presents in her book. I can also tell you in the past, when I did NOT do what is suggested in this book, things did not exactly work out. I was always that girl who tried too hard but got taken advantage of, who gave my heart and didn't get much back, who basically did all the work if it did get to the point of a relationship, or many times, before things got too serious, was told, "There's just something missing", etc. etc. So I am a total believer in Sherry Argov's books. I know I've written a lot but I want to make it clear to all of you how truly amazing this (and her other book) really is. This really is what to read to "convince the man of your dreams that you are the woman of his dreams". It works, it works, it works, it works, it works! I can't stress it enough. I hope every marriage-minded woman out there goes and reads this book because it truly changed my life. If there were a dating religion out there to follow, this would be the dating bible!!!

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Sherry Argov's books!!! (A "Bitch" is not an evil, nasty female, but a strong, approachable woman who knows her value and is ready and willing to leave a man if he does not treat her the way she feels she deserves to be treated. She is not a doormat and won't be treated like one. At the same time, she's beautiful on the inside, and brings a lot of desirable qualities to the table.) I think of this book as a conversation with a funny, thoughtful, honest BFF who shares with me the things our moms would have told us had they grown up during this era. It's no secret that most of us as women have been taught to be doormats and pleasing and accommodating in relationships (even to our own detriment), and to feel like we are at fault if the relationship fails. This book helps us understand so much about relationships, like.... we should never be or act like doormats in order to become a part of or maintain a happy, healthy long-term relationship; how a man can interpret our comments/conversation and actions (for example: us showing too much interest and enthusiasm for a committed, long-term relationship too early could be considered desperation for a future husband); that a man, through our words and actions, is assessing the type of life he will live if he were to marry us; that we have to realize that men think differently than women do - so, we need to learn how to communicate in a way that will get them to *hear* us rather than dismiss us as nagging. Let’s not make them think we want a breathing body to fill the slot of the groom, so we’ll settle for any guy who treats us half-way decent. Let’s make them think we are the prize (because we are the prize and therefore we need to act like the prize), and they need to win the honor of our hand in marriage. We aren’t desperate for a husband. We are Bitches with honor and respect for ourselves, who are looking for a partner who will celebrate us as we celebrate them. Buy this book if you want to become the best version of yourself as a partner in a healthy, loving long-term relationship...and laugh while learning how!

I wish I had read/known about this book years ago! It's hilarious, straight forward, informative, mind blowing, and true. I didn't purchase this book because I was trying to get a ring or catch the guy, I wanted to feel stronger/more confident, and know my worth and what I deserve. I can tell you, this book helped accomplish all of that and more. Sherry’s humor really makes it relatable, and the input from the men was eye opening in such a wonderful way. Reading this instantly gave me a confidence boost, and made me want to apply a lot of what I'd learned to my current relationship. I could tell things were getting too comfortable, and I could feel I was being taken for granted, and he wasn’t putting in as much effort as he had in the past. I started to back away and only be available 60-70% of the time (as Sherry stated) and within four days, there was a drastic change in his actions and attitude towards me. He started texting and calling more, trying to set up more dates, asking more about my day and trying to involve himself in my daily life. The topping on the cake that let me know this book really works, was when he sent me a text with a YouTube link to a song. The lyrics repeated, "You don't know what you've got till it's gone.” He then proceeded to tell me he couldn’t wait for our date that night. Empowering book that showed me I can put my foot down in a way that won’t push men away, but in a way that they will respect, and get their wheels turning. I think it is a must read, and I highly recommend it to anyone feeling stuck, or a little down. Sherry makes it such a fun read, I look forward to reading more books from her.

If I could give this book 100 stars I would!!! It’s about women establishing boundaries and holding their own. When we treat men the same way they treat us - we think we are being bitches. But we are not. Plus it’s an easy read and it’s funny!!! if I had read this book earlier in life, it would’ve saved me a lot of heartache

I am a single 30 year old female. I got this book out of curiosity since it was so highly rated and glad I did. It IS worth the read. Looking back at the relationships I have been in, good and bad, most (not all) of this book is dead on!!! CONS: I HOPE that the women who read this book don't believe everything they read and don't do everything she says or take it too literally. I know that if I did some of the things she suggested, any decent man would look at me like I'm crazy and tell me not to play games and just tell them what the heck is going on. They would think I was immature for not just talking to them. Through a lot of the book, whether it is comical or not, she too often refers to men as being lying manipulative jerks who test you and get away with as much as they can, for as long as they can. Instead she suggests you manipulate them? I'd be ticked as guy if my woman did some of the things she suggests. She seems to have just interviewed one type of man. Unfortunately some men DO like a woman who shuts up and does what she is told, and some DO like women who fight and create drama. She also takes things to the extreme. For example I don't believe men really need for you to act like virgin- just not a slut! And they aren't purposefully manipulating you or testing you- they are just inconsiderate and selfish. PROS: While you wouldn't guess it from the above, there are more pros than cons in this book. Argov uses great analogies and great quotes to drive her point home. She uses a simple format that easy to read and relate to. It is a solid reminder that women who are doormats do not achieve happiness. She doesn't really mean "bitch", she really means self-confident, fun, empowered, and independent woman. This is not a book that will be going to Goodwill. I am lending this to my female friends as soon as possible(single and married). There so many women who become doormats not realizing that they are reinforcing the behavior in some way. They just get sad or angry but nothing changes. This book is FAR better than He's Just Not That Into You, which had no solutions, just makes you feel bad. Argov gives real scenarios and examples and how to deal with them. She tells you what to say, and what not to say. Also, many of these principles can be applied outside romantic relationships as well. She uses a quote by Donald Trump, pointing out that we should speak up when appropriate anywhere and gain respect by doing so. I thought of my boss and co-workers. I am actually excited and motivated after reading this book to not put up with crap but to walk out when I have to. This book really solidifies that I need to work on my self-esteem (as do a lot of women). I think I will get a good book on that in order to reinforce what I learned in this book.

The advice that makes so much sense in this book reinforces people to not lose yourself with a partner. We need to think for ourselves first; do not chase or beg for attention -become more confident and concentrate more on yourself to become your happiest version. Well written - I can open the book up on any page and read real life short scenarios that teach people pleasers to chill and earn more respect by not overdoing. Best book I have recommended to my close friends.

I read this book in two days! This book has completely shifted my mindset on male psychology in dating. There are so many things that this book revealed to me that explain why things haven’t worked out or why I’ve felt like crap about situationships or relationships of my past. Sherry Argov really does an excellent job at sharing the male perspective in a revealing and insightful way. I have learned so much!

Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself. Her previous book - Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and do not take for granted. Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too. For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire. The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage. As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice to keep the relation-ship from hitting the rocks, and to secure the glittering rock. What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can. The BEST advice in the book is how to initiate the conversation that will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. It would certainly work without alienating. It would work on me, and could certainly work for you. Ideally, it would be best to have a few different approaches to pick from. I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making. Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question. Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at [...]. So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck. I trust you find this helpful.