Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love

Deep message and very helpful to reflect our behaviour and background and resolution for a much healthier relationship. It’s content is outstanding.

Simple and a good read.

There was a lot of information on attachment styles and good strategies to navigate conflict situations effectively. However, the book makes blanket statements like avoidant-anxious relationships can never work or are very hard to work or that avoidants cannot improve much so the anxious will just have to accept it as a way of life… and so on and so forth… and that both the anxious and the avoidant must find a secure partner. But who is a 100% secure?? No one. And it doesn’t discuss the disorganised attachment styles which is the fearful avoidant. Lastly, in Chapter 10 on Grace and Craig, it seems to be confusing outright abusive behaviour as avoidance. It seemed more like a case of narcissistic abuse than an avoidant running away from intimacy. So if you want to learn more about avoidants, this probably is not the book for you because it paints a heavily skewed picture of them, almost bordering on the NPD spectrum. Otherwise, for the anxiously attached people, it is good but I suppose there are better books out there.

Depth

This was good read to get understanding on what someone does something in a relationship. This was almost eye-openeing for me. I loved the the way author defines the attachment styles and the mention of some real-life situations helped to understand the types of attachment styles very clearly. Understanding this perspective has helped me alot in my personal life as well. I would recommend this book to whoever wants to understand more about people and their mindsets in relationships.

Eye - opening yet practical insights on relationships. Game changer for me. Busts a number of myths such as dependency in relationships is bad, or expressing need for intimacy is weakness. Also tells about the menace of avoidant - anxious trap. Must read for all. Lucidly written.

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I haven't finished it yet but I have read enough to find it somewhat useful. And unlike other relationship advice, it doesn't tell you to do stuff just to attract someone or without understanding. It doesn't make you feel guilty for being who you are and wanting what you want. The authors make it clear through examples or research that your needs are valid and give the idea, that if you are unhappy in a relationship or single it's not because you are flawed or not detached enough but because you are with the person who can't provide your needs. They also advise you to accept your needs as valid. And something to expect to be fulfilled, something I should ask for instead of trying to hide because it's unattractive. They don't make you feel like no one could possibly find your attachment style attractive and give examples of how people with that attachment style did find secure, loving relationships without pretending or becoming someone else. I can't imagine any dating advice that even indirectly makes me feel like I am not good enough to actually make me happy or result in me finding a relationship that's actually healthy. But the approach in this book is completely different. Even on my worst days, it makes me feel calmer, more peaceful, and hopeful about my future.

a good read to learn more of yourself. understanding differences within frictions

The book was delivered so fast and the content is so helpful and self revelatory. 100% recommend.

This is one of the books that made an impact on my life. Taught me so much about myself and about other people, specifically when in a relationship. I think this book together with “Man are from Mars and Women from Venus” are the ABC of a healthy relationship. Just start with this two for the basics.

This book was excellent and recommended to me by my therapist. Easy to read with great tips. Strongly recommend to pretty much anyone

Very long stories to get selly conclusion. The book also very small with cheap ink and small litter