The Feeling Good Handbook

Non sono riuscita a leggere ancora tutto il libro... i vari capitoli affrontano situazioni comuni in cui ci si può trovare in difficoltà e spiegano possibili metodi di gestione pratica. Dal mio punto di vista il libro può risultare utile se si hanno difficoltà emotive non troppo invalidanti. Diversamente le soluzioni proposte non risultano risolutive.

Encore plus que le "feeling good" original, ce livre donne des idées simples, pratiques et efficaces sur le rôle des pensées sur les émotions, sur le rôle des émotions pour établir le contact avec autrui. Il décrit deux pratiques, un journal de ses humeurs et de ses croyances et un agenda, que je recommanderai. Étant moi-même adepte de la communication non violente, ses pistes pour répondre à une personne (un client en l'occurrence) en colère me donnent des idées nouvelles (dire oui par exemple). Enfin, ses exemples finals sur comment motiver des clients qui s'autosabotent m'ont aussi grandement aidé. Bref, lisez-le sans plus tarder, même s'il a plus de 10 ans au compteur.

Reading through some of the one star reviews I was surprised. Several of them seem to feel that Dr Burns is "victim blaming" when he points out that ultimately YOU are responsible for how you react to someone else. But it is a hard truth that too many people do not understand. Yes. When someone says something objectively cruel, it's no fun. But rather than being sad or angry, Burns teaches that we should ask ourselves "Is that a true statement?" Since most objectively cruel statements are not, we should be indifferent to it as we should be to all things not based on facts. On the other hand, if we have been depressed and perhaps not noticed our poor hygiene for a week and a stranger at a store says "You smell bad." We should acknowledge the objective truth of it. Whether the person meant to make us feel bad or were trying to help us is irrelevant to the truth of their statement. If it's true, a nice hot bath might make us feel a little better. No need to get angry or sad at their observation. In short, good mental health requires active participation by the patient. Some people will be helped by meds, others won't for various reasons, one of which is the person expecting the meds to be magical pills that fix everything with zero effort from the patient. A LOT of GP's prescribe anti-depressants without any therapy because the patients refuse to attend. Those folks fall into the aforementioned category. Burns says that patients HAVE to participate for long-term mental health. The book explains that being mindful that depression can cause your mind to literally lie to you and goes through ways to fight back. It has ways to help stop the "looping" that happens when the mind decides to compulsively make you think about something over and over. It has a workbook component that I see a LOT of people resenting. Seriously? The workbook was very helpful to me. The author even caught me trying to NOT take the it because I resented it at first. Instead of being resentful, I did the work and was the better for it. With my most recent purchase I have now bought 6 copies of this book for various friends fighting serious depression. The ones that actually did the workbook part of this book have thanked me. The others? They tossed it on their bookshelf and still show all the signs of being depressed. This is not a cure-all. It is not a talisman wherein the mere ownership induces good mental health. You have to read it, do the work book parts and then go out and do the work itself every day. Good luck.

This is a good companion book to the original book, although it covers much of the same things. I personally think it is a good idea to review and it has wonderful exercises to help you work on feeling better and feeling like yourself again. I would recommend to those who would like a companion to Feeling Good, or to those who would rather go straight to exercises rather than a large amount of reading and background to the why's of these things.

If you read one book to get well and stay well, this is the one! It is the product of decades of experience as a psychotherapist. Great read and very helpful!