No More MR Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life Hardcover – 7 Jan. 2003

I am a typical ‘Nice Guy’. In fact I’m the ultimate Nice guy ( thats not a good thing it turns out!) . Im reading this book as i go through my inevitable divorce. I’ve been to therapy over several years and the concepts that they have spoken about are boiled down in simple language and relatable examples in this book. Its tough to see in print and the author encourages you to put the book down, go away and think / act on the changes. Having read this book on kindle Ive ordered a hard copy so i can re read, annotate and make notes. This is an important book to create positive change in resentful unfulfilled’Nice’ guys who are currently repeating the same program that was given to them as children. Good luck chaps.

I would gladly recommend this to all the men in my life, regardless of whether they think they’re a nice guy or not, I think this book and the exercises inside give everyone food for thought and ways that they can take responsibility for improving their own lives and becoming better men.

As a frustrated and therefore passive agressive 'nice guy' I found this book extremely helpful. The idea that I have made a contract with life that if I am nice to people then 'life' will have to meet all my emotional needs was not too much of a shock but nevertheless, starkly what I needed to read. Yes, it's a bit long but great material doesn't always come in great packaging. I will be recommending it to a friend who is a self-confessed people pleaser. The only thing I disagree with so far is the Mr Glover's idea that 'integrity is deciding what feels right and doing it'. Oh dear. The world is in trouble precisely because of those sort of sentiments. The right way is often the hard way and not the way that feels right at-all. Aside from this, thank you Mr Glover, really.

This is a book that has had a huge impact on me after the first reading - I am about to start reading again (as advised by the author)The astonishing thing about this book is that it in every page the author seems to know me personally. I kept thinking 'that's me - I do that!' At first it was a bit scary and then hugely reassuring to know that my outook on life was so well understood and so commonly represented by millions of men around the world.Dr Glover takes apart the myth that the world today (especially women) want and respect 'nice guys'. Let's be clear, this book does not advocate being a jerk. It is not about being horrible, nasty, dumping on others or any other negative view that might spring to mind with this title. The author agonised a bit over the title and it has probably put a few off buying it but the thing is that Dr Glover explains in depth the issues of the 'nice guy' and so he is being real to himself and his readers by sticking to the title.If you are the sort of person who belives that others come first, that it is selfish to seek anything for yourself, that it is better to 'settle' than get what is your right - the right to achieve the most happiness that you can in this short life, then this is for you.So this is a book in two parts (albeit that they thread together). It points out common traits and behaviors, then it tells you why (including a history lesson that is very revealing) and then it gives you some great pointers about turning things around. You will also find out that Dr Glover has spoken to many women on this subject and they simply endorse the views that he talks about - that might be a shock to you!Sadly, I expanded my interest by signing up for one of his online classes and found that to be simply a money-spinner. The content is shallow, Dr Glover does not give any or at least hardly any of his time to each class , you are set homework in a discussion group that leaves you floundering to decide if you are on the right track or not. Quite pricey and really not necessary - enjoy the book and leave it at that.To your happiness ...

Depending on your personal history and psychology, this book will either be of moderate use to you or one of the most important books you ever read. This is essentially a manual on assertiveness and moving past the experiences which have prevented you being an integrated person, focusing on sexual and relationship issues - but far from exclusively.Dr Glover is focussing on men who for whatever reason cannot safely and openly be themselves. The consequence is that such a man cannot be assertive and open, but must present a 'nice' persona all the while being manipulative with others - hence Nice Guy Syndrome. This has all kinds of negative consequences for both him and those around him, and fundamentally is not actually nice at all. For example a Nice Guy may want sex, but will not want to do so openly for fear of rejection, fear of female sexuality or fear of being 'dirty' - and will therefore try manipulative strategies to get it, as if they will be owed it by a women as a consequence.The book is very pragmatic and practical, although, as per the warning in the book, liberating yourself from Nice Guy Syndrome can radically change your life and relationships. The exercises are well worth doing and spending some real time with. This is a book to return to repeatedly to digest all the lessons.This is well worth reading for all men, if only to ensure you avoid the problems it describes and learn to be a genuine person with those that are closest to you. This is probably most potent in the late teens when figuring out how adult relationships work.It is probably also useful for women to understand the psychology of men who appear nice, but are also manipulative or underhand at the same time - or, in a word, 'creepy'.Finally, this is not a 'red pill' or PUA type book; it's not cynical about people nor is it about maintaining some kind of manipulative grip on another person. It's actually about becoming a better, healthier man.

This book is all about me, and it is SCARY!… In a great way. I wish I’d been given it for my 21st birthday!

Reading this helps understand and address the root of problems regarding self-confidence, relationships, etc.

Es un libro que cambia vidas. Si decides seguir de verdad sus recomendaciones, tu vida dará un giro. La primera vez que lo leí, fui absorbiendo las páginas rápido, tomaba nota de los ejercicios, pero no los hacía. Justo al final del libro, el Dr. Glover te pide que lo vuelvas a leer, pero ahora con más calma y deteniéndote a hacer cada ejercicio. Pareciera que el Dr sabe que la mayoría vamos a leer de corrido, y por eso pone esa nota al final. Lo recomiendo a chicos y grandes. Chicos para que no cometan los mismos errores y lleven una vida más plena, y a grandes para que puedan cambiar los años que han batallado.

Esse livro é essencial. Nunca imaginei que um livro poderia me descrever tão bem, me apontando características que nem eu havia percebido que possuía, e me mostraria o quanto elas atravancam a minha vida. Graças a esse livro minha vida mudou para melhor!

As the title says... I believe that every man and woman should read this book. A man to understand his behavior sometimes, a woman to become a support for him. I recommend it very warmly. I read it at the suggestion of a friend and I also bought a version for my boyfriend. After reading this book and exchanging views, we both looked at certain issues differently and thus create a harmonious relationship.

It's one of those books that will follow me for the rest of my life ; I felt understood and most importantly not judged.Lots of great insights and practical exercises to boot !Again, a must read. Not just once but again and again !